Let’s be real. Dating apps are exhausting. The endless swiping, the small talk that goes nowhere, and the general feeling of “is this worth it?” is enough to make anyone want to delete their profile and live out their days in solitude, with only their houseplants for company.
But what if the key to finding your person wasn’t on your phone at all? What if it was a plane ticket?
As the designated “planner friend,” you’ve likely seen it in your own circles. Friends who have all but given up on the dating scene suddenly come back from a trip with a great story about a new connection, or even a new relationship. That’s because travel isn’t just about seeing the world; it’s a high-stakes, real-world dating simulation that is infinitely better than anything on your phone.
1. You See the Real Person (and Their True Colors) On a first date, everyone is on their best behavior. But put two people in a new city with delayed trains, a language barrier, and the pressure of finding an open restaurant on a Tuesday night? That’s when the real person comes out. You’ll see how they handle stress, how they problem-solve, and whether they can laugh at a disaster instead of just getting angry. It’s a fast-track to seeing someone’s true personality, without the filter of a perfectly curated coffee date.
2. Shared Experiences Build Authentic Connections Dating apps are all about a quick judgment based on a few pictures and a bio. Travel, on the other hand, is about creating shared memories. Navigating a bustling foreign market, hiking a scenic trail, or simply getting lost together and finding your way back—these are the moments that forge a genuine connection. You’re not just talking about your interests; you’re living them together.
3. It’s an Automatic Vibe Check Are they the kind of person who needs to have every minute of the trip scheduled, or are they happy to go with the flow? Do they prioritize a fancy restaurant or a local food stall? Travel instantly reveals what a person values. It’s a shortcut to understanding their priorities and their pace of life, which are crucial for any long-term relationship.
4. The Element of Spontaneity You can’t plan everything on a trip, and that’s the point. The best travel stories come from unexpected moments. The same is true for the best relationships. A trip allows for spontaneity and a willingness to step outside of your comfort zone, which are both key ingredients for a healthy and exciting partnership.
So, the next time you’re feeling down about your dating life, don’t download a new app. Book a trip. The worst that can happen is you get a fantastic vacation. The best? You might just come home with a great travel story, and a co-pilot for your next adventure.